The lie

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Lies are the single most destructive force on this planet. There is nothing that can delve so deep inside your psyche, pull out your insecurities and then beat you senseless with them. The beating can be pretty merciless if you are left without support or coping strategies. Even with both sometimes you don't recover without an apology. One thing is for sure. The longer you have to stew on a lie, the more it digs in.  The pain can feel like the worst betrayal you've ever felt.

People can take away your bed and clothing, starve you, beat you and still nothing might ever be as painful as a lie.

The lie that a man thinks is docile, innocent and white, could sometimes turn out to be the biggest black hole that he's ever experienced. You know the saying: There is no wrath like a woman scorned. Why? Because he lied to her, and cheated on her.  It is a double betrayal. Think about all the lies that he had to tell in order to cheat on her with a mistress. It is unfathomable the depths that some people go to.

Even with a small lie, it's usually better to tell the truth. Most lies come out and if you are lying about small things - could you also be lying about big things? Exactly how many things have you lied about? Perhaps people will learn that they can't trust you at all. No one wants to trust someone who will not be real with them.  A small lie? It's not the intent of you hurting or sparing someone's feelings that is painful.  It is the fact that you did not trust them. You did not give them the chance to choose their fate. You violated their choice by choosing for them - like you would a toddler. No one wants to be treated that way. You can not just choose the life choices for another adult.

You can tell them what the truth is and then tell them what you want them to do.  If people trust and respect you, they will do what you want them to. They will respect your wishes. When people know that you trust them, they will trust you in return.

So, just become more tactful about your wishes, instead of lying, it will keep you "real", respected, loved and genuine.

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